I humbly bow down to your patience and your determination. I would have lost my mind decades ago… I can’t stand people who drown themselves into one inch of water. I admire your compassion and your willingness to shift perspective. I hope people you manage have the same understanding of how their .7mm obsession might be kind of … not a big deal for others.
I did lose my mind -- four years ago. I was a different person then. I thought I had no choice except to stay where I was and suck it up, a belief reinforced by a leader who is no longer there thank Goddess, who instilled fear and hopelessness in everyone at every turn while simultaneously believing he was the benevolent savior of everyone because he was gracious enough to hire them. What a bag of putrid, rotting kitchen scraps and three-week-old kitty litter he was.
I know better now and I am different now. I am already creating what I want. I am happier than I've ever been and I'm not done yet! 😎
I can’t wait to follow your journey be it with dog treats, haute couture dress for grand kids, or DIY rainbow unicorn mugs… (But, please… don’t launch yourself in cooking chicken for cats) 😂 I’m not sure your recipes would be a hit. 😜
In the past I have felt that clashes with my sarcasm were a cultural clash (in Greece where I grew up sarcasm is a common form of humor, and nobody is offended, but when I moved to the UK that was another story...). I learned to keep my mouth shut very quickly. Two and a half decades later I'm starting to realise I filtered out a few other parts of me in the process, not just my penchant for sarcasm. I'm now in the process of unlearning the filtering.
Wonderful post! Your honesty is refreshing and inspiring, especially because of your openness to take a deep dive into the issue beyond just reacting to it. Your willingness to see what's happening as an opportunity to grow and evolve says a lot about you as a leader. Patience with others that don't see things the way you do or that care about things you don't isn't easy. However, along the way you're discovering things about yourself, which wouldn't have happened unless you were willing to use the feedback you received to see if there was another way to approach things.
Argghhh. SO. VERY. RELATABLE. And also infuriating. This triggers all my work PTSD! When men are direct it demonstrates leadership. When women are direct, they are dinged on their performance reviews. Been there!
"my face still hasn’t learned how to use its inside voice" <-- Yes, this. But why should female managers tolerate inspidness (and smile more!)?
I humbly bow down to your patience and your determination. I would have lost my mind decades ago… I can’t stand people who drown themselves into one inch of water. I admire your compassion and your willingness to shift perspective. I hope people you manage have the same understanding of how their .7mm obsession might be kind of … not a big deal for others.
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I did lose my mind -- four years ago. I was a different person then. I thought I had no choice except to stay where I was and suck it up, a belief reinforced by a leader who is no longer there thank Goddess, who instilled fear and hopelessness in everyone at every turn while simultaneously believing he was the benevolent savior of everyone because he was gracious enough to hire them. What a bag of putrid, rotting kitchen scraps and three-week-old kitty litter he was.
I know better now and I am different now. I am already creating what I want. I am happier than I've ever been and I'm not done yet! 😎
I can’t wait to follow your journey be it with dog treats, haute couture dress for grand kids, or DIY rainbow unicorn mugs… (But, please… don’t launch yourself in cooking chicken for cats) 😂 I’m not sure your recipes would be a hit. 😜
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What a great piece!
In the past I have felt that clashes with my sarcasm were a cultural clash (in Greece where I grew up sarcasm is a common form of humor, and nobody is offended, but when I moved to the UK that was another story...). I learned to keep my mouth shut very quickly. Two and a half decades later I'm starting to realise I filtered out a few other parts of me in the process, not just my penchant for sarcasm. I'm now in the process of unlearning the filtering.
Thank you for the compliment, Katerina, and I celebrate that unlearning!!! Please keep it up.
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Wonderful post! Your honesty is refreshing and inspiring, especially because of your openness to take a deep dive into the issue beyond just reacting to it. Your willingness to see what's happening as an opportunity to grow and evolve says a lot about you as a leader. Patience with others that don't see things the way you do or that care about things you don't isn't easy. However, along the way you're discovering things about yourself, which wouldn't have happened unless you were willing to use the feedback you received to see if there was another way to approach things.
Thank you, Victoria. Like I said, a work in progress.
And I. Love. THIS. Work. 😊 ❤️
Onward to what's next!
Argghhh. SO. VERY. RELATABLE. And also infuriating. This triggers all my work PTSD! When men are direct it demonstrates leadership. When women are direct, they are dinged on their performance reviews. Been there!
"my face still hasn’t learned how to use its inside voice" <-- Yes, this. But why should female managers tolerate inspidness (and smile more!)?
Good luck with your breathing!
Thank you, Catherine. I apologize for neglecting to add the TW.
I had exactly that conversation about "When a man... but when a woman..." with my male boss. He didn't know how to respond. Shocker.
AND... I am creating, and having, what I want, right now. I'm just not done yet. 😎 😎 😎
Thank you for reading and replying!
Oh I absolutely LOVE the wit, the humor, the snark....the writing style- wink wink😉
Thanks, Amber J. I try. I had a really good teacher. 😉 😎 🤣